When something sad or bad happens, we often hear someone remark, "It must be God's will" or "Everything happens for a reason." Yet whether we are believers or not, common sense tells us no one – not even God -- wants older people tumbling down stairs, or young people feeling so distraught they commit suicide. If we read the Psalms and many other passages in the Bible, we are reassured that God wants only good things in our lives.
We have to examine each bad situation on a case by case basis. In many instances, we will find that humankind caused the unfortunate event. It might be through unhealthy living or stupid risk-taking or our age-old desires for money, sex, or simply domination of someone else. In other cases, the natural cycle of life is going to weaken our bodies and minds, and inevitably move us toward transition.
And sometimes, our guesswork produces no answer at all. Then we have to admit that we simply don't know the "why" of something but have faith that God is leading us to a better time, either in this life or the next.